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Men Are Not Attracted to My Online Dating Profile. Help!

I have read your “10 common mistakes” and note that say men don’t care how you look- they want kindness etc.

What I am finding on the dating sites is that they still expect older women to be gorgeous and not look their age. They take one look at my picture and don’t contact me. It’s very sad. They are missing out on things that younger women don’t have yet. What can you do to be noticed even when you’re in your sixties? Cheers.


I’m sympathetic to how you feel, Jenni.

I just want to publicly correct another directly quoted misperception.

I didn’t say “men don’t care about how you look,” at least not in any literal way.

I have a business that writes your online dating profile.

You know how many people read your profile if they find you unattractive?


EVERYTHING starts with looks – both online and offline – but especially online.

What I DID say is this:

Looks will get you in the door but it won’t keep you there.

Men reach out to women based on youth, beauty, body type, etc, and THEN determine how much they enjoy spending time with you platonically.

And since men choose wives based on how they FEEL around you, it’s in your best interest to be feminine, optimistic, confident, understanding and self-aware.

Attractiveness creates the opportunity. Relationship skills seal the opportunity.

Attractiveness creates the opportunity. Relationship skills seal the opportunity.

This, by the way, is not gender-based.

Women, too, get online and discover that over 80% of men are not attractive – especially as those men get into their sixties.

I can’t tell you how many complaints I’ve fielded – or how many articles I’ve written discussing this topic.

What I can say is that I have a secret weapon.

Her name is Kim Seltzer.

She’s an image consultant here in LA who works with women all over the world.

Literally EVERY woman in my Wednesday Love U group has employed her.

And she is nothing short of a miracle worker.

Simply by dressing you different, Kim will give you a shot of confidence that will completely change the way men see you – and, more importantly, how you see yourself.

Check out these before/afters.

Confession: Kim gave me style advice and had me throw out almost everything I wore when shooting Love U. I wouldn’t make a public recommendation like this if I didn’t believe in the transformative power of her work.

Click here to get your free body-type guide from Kim and $100 off a virtual makeover.

Let me know how it goes for you.

Best wishes,



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