As a man, how could you not support your partner’s dreams? If you don’t, some dude name Dexter would. He’ll swoop right in and be that man she’s been wanting. You know, the man she asked you to be?
Let’s keep it real. Being with an ambitious woman has its ups and downs. My girlfriend has long working hours, unlike my own schedule that is steady. Sometimes she wakes up in the middle of the night worrying about her baby business. Whenever the business is struggling, I’m struggling with her. But here’s the great part, she inspires me. It’s love worth cheering for.
Before I met my girlfriend, I have always been told I was too picky. I had one toxic relationship and kept myself single up until the age of 34. I struggled with finding a beautiful woman around my own age, who valued the simple things in life and wouldn’t make herself a star on Social Media, by posting too many selfies and bikini pictures (unless she is a high paid model which is rare). That’s the type of woman guys would want to take to the bedroom and not a person you’d like to take on a Euro trip or bring back home to mom. On top of that, my sister once tried to set me up with a good looking girl who seemed nice, but I looked at her Instagram and all I saw was a girl in a bikini asking for attention. I held myself high and said no, that’s not my cup of tea.
It was then that I met my amazing girlfriend. I marvel at everything she does. Because of her, I have a greater purpose in life. After all, a man only has a couple of responsibilities in his life anyhow. One of the few is to make his woman happy. I’ve been supporting her through her Kickstarter campaign. She makes a book with simple love tickets that brings me back to what my Parents and Grandparents have been talking about all along. I’m really her biggest fan. So if you’re lucky enough like me and find a great woman you find any excuse to support her passions. You support her the best way you can. I support her dreams and she supports mine. It’s really the only way a good relationship can work. Both people encouraging each other, through the good and hard times.
What’s interesting is, she tells me that in the past relationships, she would always feel guilty talking about work and downplay it. This went on for years until she fell out of love. It makes sense to me because, at the beginning of most relationships, where the man is pursuing the woman, a man will say he will support her and says he is interested. But when the relationship is established, the real self comes out, and sometimes the real self is kinda selfish!! The real self is selfish is what I’m trying to say. And that will disappoint the woman and in turn, she will yearn for someone to support her.
A woman doesn’t ask for you to love her project as much as she does. I would never ask my woman to love my passions like basketball like how I love it. But we all need some emotional support. I make a conscious effort in talking about her dreams, complimenting her, and helping to validate her goals. I try to convince her that sometimes it’s good to take a break, go for a jog, and do something refreshing even with deadlines approaching. That’s my part. To ask her to pull back, take a break, and realize everything will fall into place.
It’s not easy to convince your partner to slow down, but that’s what I’m there for, is to give her balance. Just a couple of sentences ago, I said that’s my part, I didn’t want to say it’s my job because I enjoy being there for her, and the rewards she’ll reap, makes it all worth it! At some point, you have to ask yourself: What do you give back for what you get? If you don’t support her, don’t expect her to support you. If you can’t see how great your partner is, she will take notice.
I am very protective of my hardworking woman. She inspires me to be the best version of myself. Even though I don’t know much about Kickstarter projects—I can write this article as a way to show support.
Being supportive is not only for now and then but every single day. Consistency is everything. In return, you will have stronger communication, admiration, respect, and substance for each other. The downsides don’t seem as big. Love is that much bigger, which in turn, makes all the troubles small. Love prevails in the end. Love conquers all. It really does you know!